Parental Alienation: The Relevance of Psychoanalytic Thinking

by Ronald C. Naso, Ph.D., ABPP

Few divorces are finalized without conflict. Immured in scenarios of disappointment and anger, the parties are frequently critical of each other.  Ten to fifteen percent of parents are so thoroughly embroiled in conflict that they provoke significant loyalty conflicts with the children.  They cannot agree on the most elemental issues or communicate without rancor (Stahl, 2011).  Years before physically separating, they traumatize, sometimes abuse, their children.  Rather than creating a safe psychological space for the child, they recruit him or her as an ally, undermining attachments to the nonaligned parent—all in the name of love.   The term parental alienation describes the final common pathway for negative parental influences and their intersection with the personality and dynamics of the child.

Psychoanalysts are exquisitely sensitive to children’s resentments as well as to the various alliances they form with each parent as they negotiate the oedipal and post-oedipal phases of development.  The legacy of these conflicts is accorded the highest priority in understanding psychopathology as well as personality and moral development generally.  From a psychoanalytic perspective, intense anger directed toward one parent is both predictable, even normative.

The resurgence of psychoanalytic interest in trauma and the dissociative defenses it inspires offers yet another framework for understanding parental alienation.  On the one hand, anger at the abuser and subsequent alignment with the non-abusive parent is often a healthy response to trauma, one to be witnessed and supported by the analyst.  On the other hand, even parental influence that does not rise to the level of abuse may intensify splitting and projective identification, causing anger to devolve into hatred.  Whereas anger can be esteem-enhancing and adaptive because it represents a triumph over victimization, hatred is a more inflexible perspective, supported by powerful rationalizations and shifts in core morality (Kernberg, 1991).  Hating someone who previously was loved and to whom the child was clearly attached presents the clinician with the child’s intense feelings that are not easily explained by the behavior of the nonaligned parent.  Are the child’s feelings reasonable in light of how the child has been treated by one or both parents?  Or, has he or she unconsciously projected disavowed feelings onto that individual?

The Court’s interest in parental alienation follows from its role in making custody and visitation determinations, ultimately from its responsibility to fashion living arrangements that are in the child’s best interests.  While some investigators view transient symptoms of parental alienation as expectable in a divorce, when a child’s hatred of or refusal to visit with one parent is supported by other parent, the Court may seek guidance from mental health professionals.  In the role of custody evaluator, the analyst must opine as to whether the child’s feelings are reasonable in light of the nonaligned parent’s behavior, better understood as a deliberate strategy on the part of the aligned parent, or the result of processes independent of the parental conflict.  At bottom, he or she must advise the Court about the relative benefits and the risks of mandated contact.  It is a unique and solemn task, requiring all of listening skills that have been honed through one’s training and clinical experience, awareness of the strong countertransference feelings such evaluations routinely elicit, as well as a commitment to using multiple data sources so that all available evidence is considered before reaching one’s conclusions.

I shall argue a finding of parental alienation rarely is a matter of establishing one’s parent’s complicity or the other’s innocence.  It is a motivationally complex phenomenon more often engendered by the mutual, but selective dissociation of moral reckoning and reconfiguration of conflicts, anxieties, and external influences in accordance with unspoken parental mandates.  Parental rejection is almost always multiply determined.   Johnson & Szurek’s (1952) work on superego lacunae offers key insights into the dynamics of this process.  By evaluating both the child and parents with respect to the degree to which moral beliefs have been sequestered and the capacity for guilt compromised, the clinician may more accurately distinguish alienation from estrangement and thoughtfully fashion interventions helpful to affected families.

What is Parental Alienation?

Gardner (1992) coined the term parental alienation syndrome (PAS) to describe the unjustified “campaign[s] of denigration” (p. 77) he observed in many children of divorce.  The disorder was diagnosed when there were findings of both explicit parental programming and active vilification of a target parent by the child.  Whether PAS symptoms were mild or severe, Gardner viewed alienating parents as “consciously and deliberately” influencing their children, fully recognizing “…the implications and effects of their machinations and often plan[ning] the details assiduously” (p. 71).  “The term PAS refers only to the situation in which the parental programming is combined with the child’s own scenarios of disparagement of the vilified parent” (p. 73-74).  To repeat, parental programming and vulnerability in the child were necessary conditions of this disorder.

While the potential for parental alienation in high conflict families is ever-present, its validity as a psychiatric syndrome has been seriously challenged (Bruch, 2001).  Is it appropriate to label children who react angrily to their parents’ divorce as suffering from a psychiatric disorder?  Walker & Shapiro (2010) believe it is problematic to do so.  They argue that alienated children share broad similarities with other victims of trauma, loss, and abuse.  As a result, their reactions are more parsimoniously conceptualized in accordance with contemporary trauma research.  Consistent with prevailing understandings of Acute and Post Traumatic Stress Disorders, it is the child’s reaction rather than the traumatogenic event itself (or the perpetrator/parent) that merits emphasis psychologically.   This is not to ignore the actions of abusive parents, but rather to distinguish the clinical/diagnostic perspective from a legal one.  Kelly & Johnson (2001) claim that to do otherwise obscures rather than clarifies the etiology of alienated children’s reactions.  Regarding the aligned parent’s behavior as the primary cause leads potentially to the improper use of the parental alienation concept in custody disputes.  Misuse, in turn, may wrongly deny a parent access to his or her children.  Therefore, these investigators urge extreme caution in evaluating this phenomenon.   Contra Gardner, Kelly & Johnson view parental alienation as occupying the negative extreme on a continuum of parent-child relationships.  They distinguish alienated and estranged children:  The former’s angry feelings follow from undue parental influence whereas the latter are justified by negative parental behavior.

A Closer Look at Parental Alienation

Gardner emphasized the child’s obsessive hatred and devaluation of the nonaligned parent.  When supported by the aligned parent, he concluded that the relationship between the child’s hatred and the parent’s behavior was a unidirectional and causal one.  He interpreted the child’s vilification of the parent “without embarrassment or guilt” as evidence for this inference (1989, p. 266), noticing the same lacunae in alienating parents who often appear oblivious about the cruelty they visit upon the nonaligned parent.  Unfortunately, some investigators have interpreted valid criticisms of PAS in a way that diminishes attention to unconscious processes, especially those promoting subversion of moral values.  They have focused instead on evidence of alienating behavior that is conscious, overt, and deliberate.  Consider the following statement made by Mark, a seventeen-year-old young man whose parents were embroiled in a contentious divorce:

It wasn’t until my parents filed for divorce that I realized I was an abused child.  I hate my mother.  She’s crazy.  She’s a controlling, paranoid bitch who is only interested in getting her own way.  She doesn’t give a shit about us.  All she cares about is getting her way.  My father is so different:  he loves me and lets me do what I want.  I can talk to him because he doesn’t try control and doesn’t punish me if I make a mistake.  My mother’s a bitch; I wish she’d get cancer and die.  I could kill her!

Mark was an honors student in high school who had been accepted to a prestigious university.  He enjoyed longstanding relationships with friends and a two year relationship with a girl whom he loved.  Most importantly, outside of the tumultuous relationship with his mother, he functioned effectively and largely without conflict.  He demonstrated concern for and empathy with others’ feelings, experienced guilt when he hurt or offended those he cared about, and was generally respectful of others’ points of view.  However, over the course of the last year, he appeared increasingly angry and irritable at home, evidencing significant symptoms of depression.

Mark’s relationship with his father was strong.  He perceived him as someone with whom he could discuss anything, good or bad, without fear of disappointment or anger.  The divorce brought them closer and Mark felt reassured when his father decided to discuss his decision to file for divorce before filing a motion with the court.  He felt it was a sign of his father’s respect and concern for he and his sister’s feelings. Unfortunately, his father’s decision had exactly the opposite effect on Mark’s feelings about his mother. It crystallized Mark’s resentment, the sense that he had been victimized by her.   He looked back at their interactions with bitterness, feeling he had been manipulated and controlled.  He concluded that she did not deserve to be treated with respect.   Indeed, he took it upon himself to humiliate and demean her, behaving in a way that was completely out of keeping with his general comportment. When queried about his actions, he expressed no remorse.  Rather, he reiterated his feeling that “she’s a bitch.  I wish she’d die.”

Compare Mark’s comments with those of his fourteen year old sister, Sarah:

I can’t stand my mother.  I can’t stand the person she’s become.   I don’t want to live with her and don’t want anything to do with her.  At least, not now.  We used to be close, but she’s no longer someone I can talk to.  She just wants to be with her boyfriend.  That’s all she cares about.  She doesn’t care about us, just about having a man.  I can sit down with Dad, tell him how I feel or what I’ve done and he doesn’t get crazy about it.  If I tell Mom anything, she makes me feel ashamed, like I’ve failed.  Maybe I’ll be able to spend time with her in the future, but right now I need space—I need to live with my Dad.

Although angry with her mother and, like her brother, struggling with depression, Sarah’s description differs markedly from her brother’s.  One senses possibilities for the diminishment of conflict because her anger is neither fixed nor immutable.  In contrast to her brother’s unconditional hatred, Sarah recalls having enjoyed a closer relationship with her mother and struggles with its loss.  She longs for safety rather than revenge.  She seeks a life without conflict, anger, and shame.  Her anger toward her mother is especially uncomfortable.  Only if she is permitted to live with her father can she imagine escaping her negative emotions. Otherwise, she envisions continued suffering and struggling with acting in a manner inconsistent with whom she experiences herself to be.

Dissociation of Moral Values

The absence of guilt is one of the most striking features of parental alienation.  It is especially noteworthy when it occurs in the context of otherwise morally intact children.  The child’s hatred of the parent stands in marked contrast to a personality organization that is generally modulated by guilt.  How is it possible to feel hatred for one who previously has been loved?

Johnson and Szurek noticed the paradox of antisocial behavior in delinquent children who otherwise presented no pervasive disorder of conscience. These children violated norms and acted on forbidden impulses selectively rather than universally.  In other spheres of their lives, they lived in accordance with rules and social conventions.  They evidenced a capacity for moral deliberation and, in some instances, possessed a developed ethical sense.  Johnson and Szurek explained the paradox thusly:

“…[P]arents may find vicarious gratification of their own poorly-integrated forbidden impulses in the acting out of the child, through their unconscious permissiveness or inconsistency toward the child in these spheres of behavior.  The child’s superego lacunae correspond to similar (unconscious) defects of the parents’ superego…” (p. 324).  In circumstances of uncertainty, conflict, and moral ambiguity, the child adopts attitudes on the basis of unconscious fantasies that find direct expression in transgressive action.  Whereas these attitudes may be activated when the child interprets parental passivity as tacit approval of antisocial actions, they are engendered as well by wishes to protect a vulnerable parent or right a perceived wrong.  While motives vary, what is critical is that the child’s fantasy correspond to an aporia in the aligned parent’s value system.  This correspondence promotes and sustains dissociation and explains the intractability of alienation over time. Unconscious encouragement leads the child, first, to believe that it is permissible to act on otherwise forbidden wishes; and, second, that focusing of his or her frustration and hatred on the alienated parent will be respected, reinforced, and interpreted as an expression of love.

Especially important about Johnson & Szurek’s view is its appreciation of how parents unconsciously influence particular attitudes and behaviors in their children.  Unlike Gardner whose view rests on conscious and deliberate programming, these investigators draw attention to how a child may interpret his or her actions as permissible when they are sanctioned tacitly by the parent.  On this view, parental alienation requires neither indoctrination nor brainwashing in the strict sense of these terms.  Rather, it rests on the creation of an intersubjective space in which selective transgressions no longer are perceived as wrong.  A high conflict divorce provides fertile soil for this dynamic to root.

Mrs. X., the mother of Mark and Sarah, engaged in a host of behaviors that were alienating.  They were offensive to her children and strained their relationships directly.   She seemed to impose her will arbitrarily, without regard for the children’s needs and interests.  She held Mark especially to standards so high that successes were treated like failures.  Teachers were horrified by her criticisms of the children.  She berated them even when they won awards, turning triumphs into failures.  It was not enough to take first place in a contest or competition; the children had to meet her standards.  She was so competitive, demanding, and intrusive that she alienated all of the local professionals working with children, such that she had to spend hours per day transporting them for voice, dance, and acting lessons.  By all accounts, she was relentless and uncompromising, intolerant of any advice to give her children some space.

At the same time, Mr. X. was not blameless in this matter.  He contributed to the children’s estrangement from their mother by passively acceding to her wishes, however much he privately disagreed with them.  His were largely sins of omission.  He feared vicious recrimination when he took the children’s side.  Feeling powerless and fearful of making matters worse for everyone, he rationalized his inaction as the only way to keep the peace.  Ultimately, he concluded that divorce would protect him and the children from abuse.  He felt ashamed, a failure as a husband and as a father.  He secretly turned to the affections of another woman, leaving his children emotionally on their own to deal with their mother.

From the examiner’s perspective, parental alienation in this case was significant, but failed to conform to Gardner’s paradigm.  It was sustained and deepened by Mr. X.’s behavior, but not unilaterally caused by it.  Instead, the children had legitimate grievances with their mother.  Various family members and third party witnesses described her as impossibly controlling, devaluing of the children’s efforts, and oblivious to the impact of her behavior on the children.  Sarah’s wish to escape from her mother’s influence was no different from that of the many adults who avoided her—there was no way to avoid her wrath when one did not do what she wanted.

Yet, his mother’s impossible behavior did not completely explain the intensity of Mark’s hatred.  He seemed to feel nothing but contempt for her, even when she took a conciliatory stance.  On one occasion, when she refused to allow his sister to attend a social function, he pounded on her bedroom door, screaming obscenities at her.  His father intervened only after the door began to tear away from its hinges, preventing any further escalation of Mark’s aggression.

To say that Mark presented with parental alienation does not do justice to what was transpiring psychologically within him.  He exhibited an extreme form of hatred whose aim was to dehumanize or symbolically destroy his mother (Kernberg, 1991).  So consuming was this hatred that it compromised any ability to mourn the loss of his relationship with his mother.  This degree of dysregulation always implicates a reliance on primitive defenses and affects personality as a whole.  In concert with a strong identification with his father and intolerance of the latter’s helplessness, Mark endeavored to coerce, dominate and punish his mother, taking a perverse delight in causing her emotional pain.  While both children averted guilt through actions designed unconsciously to protect their father, Mark actively sought revenge for the wrongs that had been perpetrated.  His mother would enjoy no mercy.

That children act on unconscious identifications and wishes in order to avenge injustices suffered by one of their parents enlarges Hartmann’s (1960) claim that moral beliefs and behavior do not follow directly from identifications and internalized prohibitions.  Rather, they are continually reshaped by contemporary influences and must accord, at least in part, with rational standards as well as with the rest of personality. On this reading, parental alienation represents a compromise formation, an effort by the child to preserve an idealized, loving, nurturing relationship with a good object at the expense of estrangement from or the symbolic destruction of a bad one.  Sadly, the dissociative processes that undergird this stance do not always accord with the reality of the situation, which is typically more complex.  While parental behavior plays a key role, it is but one factor whose contribution must be evaluated in the context of the child’s personality organization as a whole.  Mr. X.’s passivity and refusal to hold Mark accountable for his actions caused his statements to the children for greater love and respect of their mother to fall on deaf ears. He neither insisted on compliance nor imposed consequences when the children behaved poorly.  Even when evidence emerged suggesting that Mr. X. encouraged an “us against her” mentality, Mark’s reactions remained out of keeping with what was communicated. It is important that Sarah felt and acted differently, although she had arguably endured the same “abuse.”

The Significance of a Psychoanalytic Perspective for the Court

The concept of parental alienation is important in forensic circles and accorded great weight in custody determinations. Its importance follows from its intrinsic link with the best interests of the child.  In Connecticut, for example, the Best Interests statute encompasses sixteen factors, two of which are particularly sensitive to a finding of parental alienation.  Specifically, the Court (CT. Gen. Statute § 46b-56c) requires evaluators to consider: (a) “the willingness and ability of each parent to facilitate and encourage such continuing parent-child relationship between the child and the other parent as is appropriate, including compliance with any court orders;” and (b) “any manipulation by or coercive behavior of the parents in an effort to involve the child in the parents’ dispute.”  Surely a finding of parental alienation calls into question the capacity to appreciate and respond appropriately to the child’s needs (also a Best Interests factor in most jurisdictions).  By definition it is manipulative and actively undermines the target parent’s relationship with the child.  However, linkages between parental behavior and the child’s mental state are complex and multiply determined. Kelly & Johnson criticize the exclusive focus on the alienating parent as sole cause of the child’s alienation.  They argue that this inference “…is not supported by considerable clinical research that shows that in high-conflict divorce, many parents engage in indoctrinating behaviors, but only a small proportion of children become alienated…In other cases, it can be shown that some children (especially adolescents) develop unjustified animosity…and fears…in the absence of alienating behaviors by a parent” (p. 249).   They suggest that a finding of parental alienation be made only when the following criteria are satisfied:  (a) the child’s hatred is new, never before a prominent feature of the parent-child relationship; (b) the child’s hatred, contempt, and beliefs are irrational, which is to say, unsupported in light of the history of the parent-child relationship and all other available evidence; and (c) parental alienation cannot be a finding in circumstances of abuse, neglect, and/or mistreatment, nor may it used to establish claims of abuse.  The psychoanalyst’s appreciation of the context and motivational complexity of this phenomenon places him or her in a unique position to decipher the wide array of intra- and interpersonal factors that inspire alienation and educate the Court as to its emotional impact. Psychoanalytic understanding contextualizes irrational beliefs and disregulated emotions in accordance with the child’s development as well as his or her cognitive, social, and emotional capacities.


A greater appreciation of unconscious factors allows evaluators to explain parental alienation without inappropriately scapegoating the nonaligned parent.  Recognizing unconscious or dissociated influences provides a more accurate picture of what transpires within families, especially when there is little evidence to support allegations of brainwashing.   Gardner is to be credited with noticing the role of unconscious factors, an insight all but forgotten with rejection of PAS as a diagnosable psychiatric disorder.

The Court is interested in objective, accurate portrayals of parental behavior and, especially, its psychological impact on the child.  Kelly & Johnson have done a great service by urging those involved in custody determinations to speak of parental alienation as a finding with multiple causes.  Unfortunately, this has led many practitioners to disregard the role of unconscious factors and focus exclusively on parental behavior that is consciously planned and overt.  Invisible in this perspective is the aligned parent’s unconscious sanctioning of hostility, whose primary indicant is an absence of guilt and mourning in the affected child.   While brainwashing does occur, parental alienation is often a response to disavowed parental emotions, beliefs, and signals that are experienced as acts of love.  In such instances, the child does not simply act on forbidden wishes, but on the basis of identifications, conflicts, anxieties, and influences that have been reconfigured by the circumstances of the divorce.  This “transvaluation” (Hartmann, p. 30) deserves clinical attention in its own right.  A child embarks on a campaign of denigration only when he or she feels justified in doing so.  It is especially likely when this behavior is supported by a parent, such that the child no longer experiences a disparity between his or her actions and what is morally permissible.


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By:  Ronald C. Naso, Ph.D., ABPP

Ronald C. Naso, PhD, ABPP is psychoanalyst and clinical psychologist in independent practice in Stamford, CT. He also is a consultant and supervisor in the Internship and Postdoctoral Fellowship training programs at the Child Guidance Center of Southern Connecticut. The author of numerous papers on psychoanalytic topics, associate editor of Contemporary Psychoanalytic Studies and consulting editor of Division/Review, his book, entitled Hypocrisy Unmasked: Dissociation, Shame, and the Ethics of Inauthenticity, was published by Aronson in 2010.

12 Responses to Parental Alienation: The Relevance of Psychoanalytic Thinking

  1. Sams dad says:

    To remind all those with morals and to all those who love all children, that this David J. Glass Esq. PhD would giggle & laugh at me while waiting to see the judge. Shortly after this attached letter dated 2-12-2012 was received by the community of Malibu, CA this David J. Glass Esq. PhD conspired to injure a 3rd party (myself) , suborned perjury and falsified evidence just before he closed down his practice and went to FMBK Law.The CA State Bar has just received a 2nd complaint regarding this matter.

    2-12-12 Mr. Graham J Miller


    To The Principals of Malibu Elementary Schools and To Whom it may concern within the LAUSD and SMMUSD administrations, Directors or other persons.
    Dear Sir Madam or MS,

    I am writing to you firstly as a parent. I have a child in a Malibu public school. I am also writing as a Citizen, and therefore concerned in a more global manner with issues that I personally find disturbing and relevant. I believe a possible failure to perform to ethical codes of several professions, let alone what any normal person may find to be reasonable is about to, and could in the future lead to embarrassment, public consternation and at best a complete lack of faith ,trust and confidence in the above agencies.

    I have recently been informed by my daughter Lily-Jane Faith Miller that her mother has taken her out of Callahan elementary (Northridge); and she is now at some school in Malibu district. (Grade 2)

    My reasons for my concern follow.

    Within the Malibu school district there is a teacher, (C Cullen) who has accused her ex-husband of two counts of sexual abuse of their son, and 5 other counts of abuse of their son (11). This alleged abuse according to Ms. Cullen and her Attorney took place over the past 5 years.

    I would like a notation in my daughter’s file that she is never to be placed in class with the above person as her “(my daughters)” teacher. I apologize in in that I amenable to provide more details on my daughter’s whereabouts (school) but her Mom has not provided that info. I’m sure Dr Jacob the principal at Callahan would be able to assist.

    In MS Cullen’s divorce and custody case she utilized the services of a Mr. D Glass Esq.(Attorney) Mr Glass is also a PhD in Psychology .Mr. Glass was also utilized by the mother of my daughter, Lily -Jane in my own divorce and custody matter. Mr. Glass a Psychologist/ Attorney and mandated reporter saw fit to bring allegations of sexual abuse of a child and 4 allegations of other forms of abuse of MS Cullen’s son Sammy before family court. These all were investigated by the Police DCFS, and the District Attorney. They were found to be without either Medical or Credentialed 3rd party verification and closed therefore as unsubstantiated. These allegations were brought by MS Cullen via the services of Mr. Glass and occurred regularly before the summer school break on a yearly basis. MS Cullen had also recently remarried a Mr Brian Winsick another Teacher and coach in the Conejo Valley. Their marriage took place just prior to the allegations beginning.

    I will now outline my concerns and reasons for the request of the notation in my daughters file.

    It is my belief that the relationship between this teacher Ms. Cullen and her attorney and my own ex-wife and the same attorney is cause for reasonable concern. That to avoid any unfortunate incident where god forbid I was to be accused by my daughter’s mother of something similar as MS Cullen accused her ex-husband of it is imperative no establish able link is in place as could lead to suspicion of collusion. The worst case scenario that Ms. Cullen at some time becomes my daughters teacher and subsequently claims are made that perhaps my daughter had inferred to MS Cullen that I had abused her ( Lily-Jane) and MS Cullen then could relate this to my daughters mother through their mutual attorney, or contact at school is beyond horrific. I feel the separation of my daughter and this teacher protects LAUSD/SMMUSD and my daughter and me.

    In a more global sense I am concerned that a teacher married to another teacher and coach and an attorney who is also licensed as a psychologist made no attempt to make aware the LAUSD or the SMUSD of their concerns. (Two allegations of Sexual abuse and five other allegations of abuse.) Surely some ethical codes of their respective professions would demand other relevant or parties who could be impacted be advised.

    When a teacher finds the resources to pay $500 an hour to a Beverly Hills Attorney for 5 years surely there is a need for verification that such allegations will bring in terms of the expenses the County and State will bear during the protracted conflict. Especially if the accused has been made indigent by the continued claims and has suffered stress or work issues stemming from such accusations and is no longer paying taxes.

    As a parent I certainly would be outraged if I knew my child’s teacher was aware of a legitimate abuse situation and if, as in this case it included Sexual Abuse allegations and that teacher did nothing to bring attention to it as could protect other children I would expect answers. Specifically why and how a person(s) (2 Teachers, (Coach), An Attorney/Psychologist) would go ahead and consciously disregard accusations of such a serious nature, and then they having brought these allegations before family court and the district attorney go ahead and let other parents arrange activities with the person they were accusing of abuse in a manner as would expose other children to the accused.

    What is more disturbing and I expect the press will find disturbing is that repeated allegations of this nature are often utilized in family conflicts and that this is acceptable is in fact a failure of morality within our society. I believe this failure may have had a profound societal impact.

    That the failure of an application of evidentiary standards as are normally applied in criminal matters may have allowed credentialed persons possibly with questionable motive to use family court in a manipulative and deceitful way to achieve their own ends appears to me to be worthy of consideration.

    This epidemic of claims of abuse of children caught in such situations, (family breakups) versus children, who suffer actual abuse , desensitizes the general public and governmental agencies and allows real and dangerous criminals to hide and operate with virtual impunity in our society. It is beyond Peter and the Wolf it is an ongoing crime against humanity. To falsely perpetrate something that I believe leads to what we are now facing in the LAUSD and SMMUSD and may have exacerbated, perpetuated and indeed by lack of action condoned events and actions that possibly has led to emotional; mental and even physical harm to any child is heinous.

    I believe because of the actions as I have described many prior red flags have been ignored in many abuse situations and much suffering and harm and expense could have been avoided if a less commonplace attitude of children was the norm.

    Indeed in the immediate situation with (C Cullen, B Winsick )either the allegations were scurrilous and a product of vitriol, and an attorney(PhD Psych) with who knows what motivation (7 Claims) and that these claims were worthy of public expense .Or these persons were aware the claims they were bringing were false and therefore not worthy of reporting to LAUISD/SMUSD or other parents.? The alternative is an admission of negligent lack of reasonable due diligence and surely a great lack of concern for the school both pupils and other teachers and parents has been flagrantly displayed in total disregard for the safety and welfare of minors. Whether this is or should be a concern for the bond holders of these persons I do not know. Mr. Glass, Glass family Law and former associate of (Kolodny & Anteau) One of the most respected family law firms in the United States (Mel Gibson Getty, etc.) has been investigated by the CA Bar already in this matter and while the complaint was not upheld a letter suggesting the possibility of civil redress was issued by them.

    The APA also found he did no wrong apparently within their own ethics code.

    The fact remains an Attorney/Psychologist and a Teacher and a Teacher/Coach surely have some duty to the community. The positions of trust and respect they are afforded should allow the general public a reasonableness within their expectation of propriety and protection of the innocent by such credentialed persons.

    Perhaps the LAUSD/SMUSD could incorporate or suggest to the CA Bar a cooperative relationship of a professional nature that would allow this protection to be afforded our children as well as draft a code for the LAUSD/SMUSD’s own employees in such situations.

    Certainly recent events could lead one to surmise that a better clarified way of maintaining the safety and welfare of our children, from both bonifide and false claims of abuse would be helpful. The harm that both real and imagined events can bring to families, as well as collateral persons and an institution such as children’s learning environment should be minimalized at all times.

    Sincerely Yours,

    Graham J Miller.

    885 Avenue of the Americas

    Penthouse 1A

    New York. NY. 10001

  2. Sams Dad says:

    3-13-13 Child abuse by design

    Dear Ken ,

    It’s been more than a year since the letter of 2/12/12 and the apparent subsequent closing shortly thereafter of Glass Family Law. I understand he is now not promoting himself as uniquely blended in Psychology and Law but is at another firm doing probate work. Interestingly enough his resume at FMBK Law has claims of credentials I understand you believe are false based upon you direct written response from organizations Mr. Glass claims to be a member or associated with. Who does that reflect upon him or the diligence and propriety of the firm which now employs him?
    It occurred to me that the complete contrast in our cases is almost deafening in the way it shouts hypocrisy, maleficent practices, and flat out perjuries within statements written under penalty of perjury and oral statements within hearings and written statements within submitted briefs screams of the manipulation of parents. This IMHO by attorney’s, the bench and minor’s councils within the family court system in CA at least. Given I was asked to waive my Fifth Amendment Rights in family court? And did so .The issuance of restraining orders on both of us within 3 weeks of my letter of the 12 of February under quote Justice Convey in your instance (“by the slimmest of margins”)one has to wonder at the coincidence…Right? Of course I was judged as having stalked by proxy because I hired a PI to prove my daughter was being housed with a felon (cultivating under a Federal Indictment),,, and the mother knew it.
    Indeed in your instance you were falsely accused of molestation by the mother of your son seven ( 7) times and then of stalking (8th)when the child was too old to falsely accuse the father of abuse .I note your minors council never interviewed your child even though Sammy was ten (10) . In your case no abuse took place yet you were put on monitored visitation and visitation reduced to police station pick-ups permanently. It would seem logical Ken that at some time you become a safe parent. When is that after your four (4th) parenting class? Or after the third 3rd interview with the District Attorney’s Office. How about after the 8th sheriff or 13th DCFS investigations. What grade gives you a pass? Or is it like our friend who ponied up a Million dollars.
    In my case I alleged that the mother was negligent or deliberately sub parenting in a manner as was provocative .Lj was taken to UCLA med center at three & half (3 ½) .and on morphine and intravenous feeding for 6 weeks after the neighbors call the police because they could hear her screaming. I had previously stated the mother did not have the skills or empathy and may have been suffering some mental distress.
    Then two (2) years later numerous blood noses (daddy don’t put sunscreen on …its very sore) and Minors counsel accused me of overreacting etc. Yet my daughter now is showing a scar across her nose as her face has grown. Also when the symptoms that caused the first hospitalization reoccurred I took Lj to the Doctor without custodial privileges and was again accused of being alarmist yet the child’s diet was immediately changed by the mother and things improved.
    Not forgetting being accused of 10K in support arrears that the judge threw out as falsified spreadsheet CSSD said I never owed anything. As well as the LCSW saying the Mothers accusation I yelled at our daughter and threw a phone at her was a work of fiction. Perhaps that is why we have a letter from the Bar suggesting we pursue “civil action”.
    Given all this I am the one who is separated and monitored.
    My point is you are not a molester as the DA stated yet you are punished and to the opposite I can prove the mother has been ,may still be or is a least using sub care of my child in a provocative manner where my child may be suffering yet I am punished,. Quote (LCFS,,‘ The Mother is not currently negligent”)
    Finally we have our friend who only after paying a million dollars was taken of monitoring, all accusations and interference stopped and can see his children when he wants.
    Here is the situation Given the violence in society killings in families, how much damage has been done to children and women, mothers Fathers parents and extended family by the propagation of this kind of duplicitous behavior within what seems to be a culture of deceit built around self-aggrandizing and financial self-serving that in fact amounts to fiscal abuse of children. What training skills and so on are lost in funneling the parent’s income to third party leeches using false or manipulated circumstances to serve their own interests?
    In my case I spent more than $ 47,072 seeing my daughter for twelve ( 12) hours each month for the last year.
    I kept my second residence in California, (rent) paid child support, Airfare from NY once a month air fare for a weekend from oversees and monitor costs including the monitors meals , go-cart rides, Taxis/transportation , lunches, entertainment, getting around, clothes, toys, books & games and adventures that I as her father are able to spend upon the daughter that I have raised!
    What type of enhanced opportunities could a different approach have made?
    If fathers are the enemy what will mothers become once a more robotic agenda is achieved .They will be phased out as well. Women should consider the short amount of time science is giving them to make the correct adjustments to this situation and police their own ranks from peers lawyers and malevolent individuals who care little for children, and will eventually throw mothers to the wayside in preference of the state. I mean do little girls really need to be born with a womb anymore?
    The societal cost of the emotional and mental anguish to children and subsequent family killings from person caught up in this situations is surely not worth the salaries of a the firms and government agencies who benefit from this culture…>All mothers, children and Fathers are at risk and more so daily as those uneducated to the manner they will be manipulated and have their conflict orchestrated to the fiscal advantage of others.
    My being asked to waive my 5th in family court because a stated somebody was a dead man walking, professionally speaking .It would seem I know what I’m doing as David J. Glass Ph.D. is now hobbled from abusing any more families and a judge who asks me if I wished merry Christmas to a Jewish Lawyer as a hateful gesture seems to be setting me up for something, especially since you had received notices mailed to your residence disclosing that David Glass would be on vacation during the “Christmas holidays”.
    Yet you Ken are a longtime Jewish friend and my father spent weeks in a cattle car on his way to Stalag IVIII in Poland.

    Was it not the Nazis who first separated children from parents?

    And then when I request the transcript from that hearing, I pay for it I and then get not the original but a copy and my money order is handed back to me and no one will say who was given the original?
    Lj says to me at age of 6 when I tell her mom loves her and will always be in her life
    She state’s to me …“She’s going to live a lot; she’s never going to die?”
    What is this child going to hold her mother responsible for and by what means will she do so?
    The enabling of conflict by those who seek to gain financially is simply evil and no different from an arms dealer who supplies both sides .The killing of life be it on an emotional ,intellectual, financial, mental, spiritual and /a or physical level is a death and no different from actually using a mechanical device. Too knowingly do so to children whose spirit is pure is inherently foul.
    To surmise IMHO the individuals and associated firms in our cases are only the tip of the iceberg.
    Michael J Kretzmer. David J.Glass Ph.d, Lori A. Darakjian, Elise Greenberg of Carlson & Greenberg, Psychologist Angus Strachan Ph.d of Lund & Strachan ,FMBK Law , Kolodny & Anteau represent a blight upon what was once a noble profession .
    Please get back to me with your thoughts, I am thinking about copying this letter and the letter of 2-12-2012 to the California Attorney General.

    Ps I’ll be in LA for visitation. It snowed in NY this week.

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